EXCUSE ME, WHAT'S A WEEKEND?


"So!  Whatcha got planned for the weekend?"


The question, posed in a chipper young voice and set between bits of soft, happy humming came from the other side of a computer monitor.  The voice's owner was waiting for her machine to do its thing and had some time for small talk.  My mind had been on all the other things I had to do while I was in town so it kind of surprised me to be asked about plans for further down the road. 


Besides, I'm retired.  I wasn't even sure of what day it was or that there was going to be a weekend anytime soon.


I did manage to come up with an answer for her.  I had a bunch of things planned over the next few days although only one of them was going to happen on the weekend.  My answer seemed to satisfy her though.  She went back to work - still humming - and I sat back and thought about how two people could use the same word but have such different perspectives on what it meant.  While we were both speaking English and we had both said "weekend" we weren't on the same page at all.


She was in her early to mid twenties.  She was thinking about fun stuff: maybe a hot date?  A sporting event?  A dance?  A concert in the city?  Or, being as she was a working girl, did she just want to sleep in and take it easy for a couple days?  I reached way way way back into my memory banks and recalled what that felt like.  Back then the word "weekend" had the ring of magic to it.  No wonder she was humming to herself.


Weekends are something that kind of fade in and out of significance as one goes through life.


When we are very young life is just a steady stream of days.  My dad was a farmer so every day was a work day; it wasn't like he went to town for a nine to five kind of job.  Besides, we had dairy cows - they had to be milked twice a day, every day.  They didn't take days off, and neither did we.  Sundays were the only day that stood out because we went to church and sometimes spent the afternoon at the lake.  But a weekend?  What was that?


School life answered that question.  We still had the cows that needed milking twice a day every day, but the understanding of five days of work and two days off took hold.  Along with all the other things you learn in those early years is the concept of days, weeks, months, and years, the rhythm of the classes, the power of the bell either calling you in or letting you go.  Five days of work, two days of play; the message is clear - play days are less frequent and therefore more precious.


Our teen years are spent trying to cram the most (usually the dumbest or most dangerous) stuff into those two days off.  Miraculously most of us survive.


The word 'weekend' takes on a whole new meaning when we reach adulthood.  The years of careers and kids means another adjustment.  There are so many bases to cover that free time becomes a most coveted resource.  Party time fades out and family time takes over.  The closely monitored calendar counts off the days to camping trips and sports tournaments, family reunions and weekend getaways.


Life continues to unfold.  Those busy years pass and you find your social calendar shrinking as the kids leave home.  I have even gone one step further and retired so that I could stay home and play in my gardens.  I work when the sun shines and stay in when it rains - Mother Nature cares not the least what day it is.  And, since she doesn't acknowledge weekends, and my husband's job has a similar attitude, I don't tend to pay much attention to them either.


There are weeks like this past one when I haven't been on the right day once.  The Monday holiday messed me up and threw off my planned trip to the city.  We had company on Wednesday so it felt like a Sunday.  I went to town on Friday but my brain kept thinking it was Monday.  Today is Saturday, but you couldn't tell by me.


I'm going to church tomorrow hoping that it will start me off on the right foot for this week - and it occurs to me that this is how it all started out.

                                                 THE MARCH OF MUD

It almost looks like it's true - the squeaky wheel does get the grease!  Complain, and someone will do something about it!  My last post was about snow, snow, snow and here I am a week later talking about mud.

We have been enjoying a week's worth of above zero temperatures.  The days have been so warm that the snow that Glen couldn't get to on the roof has been avalanching down onto the deck in sections as the metal roofing warms up enough to let it slide.  The first couple times it happened it freaked the dog right out, but he seems to have it figured out now.  It's not all that unusual to have a brief February thaw, but this one is exceptional - it's been more than a week long and it doesn't even freeze over night.  I tell you, it's weird to lay in bed in the middle of a winter night and listen to the eaves trough running water.

Although there has been a lot of melting going on the snow pack doesn't really look to have shrunk much.  True, the roads are visible, but the ditches are still full.  The ridges left by the snow plows aren't as high as they were last week, but they are still plenty high enough to catch drifting snow should we get some more.  The one good thing about the snow that's left - it is more like solid ice, the wind won't be moving it again.  The long range weather says that we may get some more the first week of March, but that's a long way off and let's hope they are wrong.

Meanwhile I get to deal with pre-spring spring.  March's calling card - mud - has taken over the porch. 

I tell myself, as I stand at the doorway and observe the mess, that it's not as bad as it used to be.  I now only have a husband and a dog to deal with.  There was a time when there were four kids plus the man and at least one dog ... sometimes even a cat ... with all their footprints everywhere and mud splatter up the walls because every one knows it's easier to kick boots off than it is to calmly remove them and place them on a rubber mat like you've been asked to a million times.  It was like they were artists and mud was the medium they liked to work with - splashes, splatters, and globs across the floors and halfway up the walls, all framed beautifully by their wet coats and other clothing carefully arranged on their invisible floor hooks. Ah!  The memories!

But, I digress.

Now I have a larger porch with a lighter coloured floor.  I don't know what I was thinking there, but I'll bet you I didn't make that decision in March.  There are only two humans living here and yet there are six pairs of boots; two neatly on the mat and four others strewn across the floor.  The two on the mat are relatively clean, the others are twice their normal weight with mud, and surrounded by the residue tramped in from outside the last five times they've been worn.  I'm going to wait until this mid-winter thaw is over and then I'm going to gather up all this freshly harvested soil, mix in a little peat moss, and start an early indoor garden.  It's the same threat I've made for the past 34 years.

That's the kind of thinking a girl gets into with spring edging ever closer - I just want to plant some seeds and watch things grow.

                                                      MAROONED

 It's got to the point where we no longer take it for granted that we can go to town any old time we please.  Just owning a truck and SUV, both in good repair and sporting suitable tires, or having a worthy grid road system going right past our place means very little when the snow is this deep and a restless prairie wind continually sifts it sideways into drifts.  I told you about our New Year's Eve walk?  Conditions haven't changed for the better.

I'm not going to compare our situation to what Atlantic Canada is getting at the moment.  They measure their snow fall in feet, not inches, and the winds that accompany their storms range in the 80 to 100 kph; it's a very rare prairie storm that will pack that kind of a wallop.  Their storms are massive, alright, but snow they get in December doesn't tend to be still sticking around in March.  On the prairies we keep ours around.  Our temperatures don't melt it.  Our only option is to pile it up - pushing it as far back from our driveway as possible because we know that there will be many more storms and we will need the space to push those snowfalls back too.

Meanwhile the winds play with the white stuff.  With every shift in direction the snow banks form different designs across the landscape.  It's really quite beautiful to watch and with the right play of sun and shadow, photographers can capture exquisite scenes.  If you are a nature watcher you would love it.  If you want to go to town, you might not be so impressed.

For example: yesterday morning I had decided to go to church.  No one had been out of the yard for 24 hours and the wind had been blowing the whole time from the west so I was pretty suspicious of our main gate out.  I backed out of the garage and played eeny meeny miney mo and decided to try the escape route instead.  Our yard has what my husband calls the 'bunny hole' referring to a back door escape hatch that rabbit holes have.  It leaves going south whereas the main gate faces west; depending on which way the wind is blowing from, if one is blocked the other one is probably passible.

It was tricky, but I made it out of the yard ... and was feeling quite accomplished until I got to the corner a mile from home and found the intersection almost completely filled in with drifted snow.  I debated my chances and decided to go for it - if I got stuck there it was only a mile walk home and I had brought my walking boots just in case.  I made it through but more than once during the church service I found myself wondering if I was going to be lucky enough to get home again.  I did, but when Glen came home six hours later in his big 4 wheel drive truck he said it was all he could do to get through.  When I mentioned this morning that I had a meeting in town tonight he just said he didn't know how I was going to get there.  I had forgotten we were marooned.

I have letters written by my grandmother before I was born talking about being totally snow locked by March one year because the route they used to get to main roads from their farm had blown in so solidly they had to wait for spring melt to be set free.  My father-in-law also tells the story of how when their first child was born Jan 30, 1945, the trip to the hospital was the last trip down highway 8 until spring.  In this day and age it seems unbelievable that a major highway would be shut down for months but I have no doubt his story is true.

It's mid February and quite often March is our snowiest month.  Anywhere (and there are lots of places) that the snow has blocked the roads the plows leave ridges when they pass.  Anywhere there are ridges the snow fills in even faster and harder the next time it blows.  These next six weeks could be interesting.

                                                           ANTICIPATION

"I've never lost a crop in February yet!"

For those in the non farming field this statement probably causes some head scratching.  And, for those who are, you would recognise this as a statement of pure optimism.

The non farmers would say "Of course the crop isn't lost yet.  It's not even planted yet!"

The farmers among us would smile knowing smiles, nod their heads, and hope for the best.

The non farmers think 'farming season' only lasts from May to September.

Farmers are well aware that a true farming season never takes a break.  It's a year round application of work and weather, money and machinery.  In order to make a living at it, all of these things have to come together at the right time.  It's not like a 9 to 5 job, and it's really no wonder why the 9 to 5ers of the world don't understand.

A couple weeks ago a neighbour was over for coffee and at some point in the conversation said "I've never lost a crop in February yet!"  To put it in context, he and my husband had been talking about the huge amount of snow we've had so far this winter, and what that was going to mean in the spring, depending on how fast the melt would happen.  Both men are concerned at how seeding is going to be affected come spring.  The ground was saturated by rains throughout October and November last year and with all the snow piled on top of that they know that even if it doesn't snow another flake or rain another drop the land is going to be so muddy that a) the machinery will be stuck a lot,            and b) many acres will either be under water or unreachable.  When time and landbase are so closely connected to their bottom line, these are serious circumstances.

And yet, his statement wasn't a "woe is me!".  On the contrary, it was stated with hope and optimism for the future.  He wasn't throwing in the towel and saying "There's no use even trying."  It was much more like "It ain't over till the fat lady sings." Both men knew that the challenges were likely to be high and the work hard, but worrying about it in February was a waste of their time and energy.  A lot of things could happen before the ground was warm enough to plant, and maybe, just maybe, some of them would be in their favour.

Winter is wearing on us all, though.  It gets like that in mid February.  We all long for warmer weather, more daylight hours, and the colour green.  In another couple weeks we'll be starting to look out for returning birds - crows are usually the first - and we'll breathe a sigh of relief; spring will be just around the corner. 

We are an optimistic people: we wouldn't live here, or do this, if we weren't.

                                             THINKING GLOBAL

I'm a news junky, even though the habit is detrimental to my sleep patterns.  I need to know what's going on.  I want to be informed although I seriously wonder why when the information gained by listening to the news is so confusing and/or infuriating. 

It's not that this specific period of history has worse stories than other times have had.  The earliest monster bad news story that I can remember was the Cuban missile crisis. I was only six at the time so obviously I didn't understand anything about it except that my parents were frightened, but believe me, something that scares your parents that much it absolutely terrifies a kid.

I also remember my Grade 3 teacher telling us the US president had been shot dead, and the night that my favourite radio station turned off the music and would talk only of a guy named Martin Luther King, someone I had never heard of but when I asked mom she knew, and again a news story had the power to upset her.

Back then it felt like, being Canadian, we lived outside the danger zone that America seemed to occupy.  For sure the border was only 40 miles away, but there was this imaginary line there that said we were a different people.  You only had to look at a globe - there was that 49th parallel separating us; below it they were some serious kind of colour like slate blue or money green, and above it we were pink; Canada was usually pink.

Time went on.  Jet travel pulled the planet into an ever-tightening ball of business dealings, tourist travels, and unfortunately, foreign government meddling.  None of these things were new to the human experience, but now there were no bounds of 'too far away'.  Nothing brought this home to me more than 9/11.  Up until that beautiful September morning - if I had thought about it all, which I didn't - I would have said that North America was protected by enormous distance and huge oceans from the ugliness that was happening in the Middle East.  As we all discovered that day, our planet is much too small for that kind of thinking. 

The World Health Organization warns us all the time; with the human population in constant motion as it is, a disease hatched in any region of the world can infect us all within mere days.  One wishes that the same level of vigilance could be put on the diseases called Hate and Intolerance, because they spread just as fast having no more respect for those imaginary border lines between countries than any other deadly pathogens.

Violence and carnage against innocent people are perpetuated every day; the news overflows with it.  Fanned by greed and false feelings of superiority the flames of destruction wipe out concert goers, market shoppers, holidayers, babies, children, men and women alike.  The intent seems to always be to make to next massacre more shocking than the last.  On one level the evil that is out there is winning - the body count continues to go up - but on the other hand it is too much to take in.  The shock and awe tactic is losing its edge.  It's not a case if "will it happen again?" but "where will it happen next?"

So, this latest time it was Canada's turn - innocent men at prayers.  No reason at all, just a young man with his head full of poisonous beliefs, his soul drained of humanity.

As I sat and digested the story I felt shame that my reaction to it lacked intensity.  Where was the emotion that Paris or Nice had stirred up in me?  And all the others before them?  I should be twice as mad that my country was now having to deal with the horror, but I wasn't.  Was I becoming immune to the violence?  Was it my human response to overload?

At the end of that newscast was the image of the Eifel Tower going dark in respect of those lost in the tragedy in a mosque in Quebec City.  This quiet, powerful, beautiful statement said to me "We are all one" and something shifted in my thinking.  It wasn't that I was becoming immune to the hatred.  And I am a proud Canadian, but I realized I was not counting lives lost on our soil any more important than those lost elsewhere.  The words "we are all in this together" is what France's gesture of respect was saying, and I understood it was how I was feeling too.  Imaginary lines and distance mean nothing in today's world. 

Today's globes aren't the multi-coloured jig saw puzzles of my youth.  Instead they depict what the planet really looks like - the water is blue, the land is either lush and green or brown with drought, less and less of it is white with ice and snow.  We cannot afford thinking that says we are in any way removed from what goes on somewhere else - or to continue to nourish hate with more talk of hate. 

I shut the news off this morning; I need a break.